Ever walked away from a conversation thinking,
"Why didn’t I just say what I needed to say?"
You’re not alone. Most of us have found ourselves shrinking, exploding, freezing, or overexplaining when the stakes are high.
Here’s the truth:
It’s not a character flaw. It’s a nervous system event.
When cortisol spikes (which it does in moments of stress, conflict, or perceived danger), your ability to communicate clearly takes a backseat to your body’s instinct to survive.
Here are 7 reasons you lose your voice—and what to do instead:
1. You’re Not Weak—You’re Dysregulated
Stress floods your system with cortisol, shutting down access to your neocortex (the part of the brain responsible for rational thought).
Result? You react from instinct—not intention.
Result? You react from instinct—not intention.
2. You’re Likely Operating From a Default Nervous System Pattern
- Fight: You lash out, get defensive, or raise your voice.
- Flight: You avoid the conversation or change the subject.
- Freeze: You go blank and can’t find your words.
- Fawn: You overexplain, over-apologize, or try to smooth it all over.
No matter your default, it’s a learned response. And it can be re-patterned.
3. Most of Us Were Never Taught How to Say the Hard Thing
Especially women.
We’re taught to stay agreeable, polite, non-confrontational.
We’re praised for keeping the peace—even if it comes at the cost of our truth.
We’re taught to stay agreeable, polite, non-confrontational.
We’re praised for keeping the peace—even if it comes at the cost of our truth.
4. Power Imbalances Make It Worse
Speaking up to a boss, a partner, or someone in authority?
Cue heart racing, palms sweating, voice shaking.
That’s your body interpreting the situation as unsafe—even if your mind knows better.
Cue heart racing, palms sweating, voice shaking.
That’s your body interpreting the situation as unsafe—even if your mind knows better.
5. Social Media Has Rewired Your Relationship to Visibility
Online, we’re trained to seek validation.
To perform.
To keep people liking us.
No wonder speaking hard truths (especially unpopular ones) feels threatening.
Visibility has become tied to acceptance—not authenticity.
To perform.
To keep people liking us.
No wonder speaking hard truths (especially unpopular ones) feels threatening.
Visibility has become tied to acceptance—not authenticity.
6. You Don’t Need Scripts—You Need Safety
Scripts fall apart the moment stress hits.
What you actually need is a regulated nervous system.
Breath. Grounding. Tools that bring your body back to safety—so your voice can follow.
What you actually need is a regulated nervous system.
Breath. Grounding. Tools that bring your body back to safety—so your voice can follow.
7. Sovereign Communication Is a Learnable Skill
That’s exactly why I created Truth to Power—a live, breath-led workshop happening July 23, 2025.
You’ll walk away with:
✅ A deep understanding of your stress-response patterns
✅ Breathwork tools to calm your system in real time
✅ The ability to speak your truth without freezing, fawning, or blowing up
✅ The confidence to say what needs to be said—especially when power dynamics are in play
✅ A deep understanding of your stress-response patterns
✅ Breathwork tools to calm your system in real time
✅ The ability to speak your truth without freezing, fawning, or blowing up
✅ The confidence to say what needs to be said—especially when power dynamics are in play
This isn’t about being louder.
It’s about being anchored.
And when you can communicate from that place of truth, clarity, and calm—
nobody gets to mess with you.
🗓 July 23, 2025 | Limited Spots Available
Don’t wait for the “right moment” to reclaim your voice. Take advantage of the early bird discount...until June 30, pay just $35 CAD with discount code TRUTH25.
Because the world doesn’t need more polished performance.
It needs your truth—spoken with power.
It needs your truth—spoken with power.
